Making Pleasure A Priority
I can remember those orgasms when I was around 16. Enjoying discovery my body’s pleasures. It was so easy to orgasm by humping a pillow or the edge of a mattress. What fun, experimenting with what movement felt good and what felt awesome. My magic fingers, pressing (varied pressures) and caressing my clitoral shaft, clitoris and labia with circles and or up and down strokes. These orgasms seemed more genital located, meaning I felt the intense contractions mostly in my vulva.
I reflect on what I would call by first full body orgasm in my late 20’s. Wish I could boast and say I was so knowledgeable and skilled that I have gave it to myself, however, the truth be told it was through experimentation with a partner. My body remembers it like this; small waves that move through my labia and clitoris, then increasing cycles of tension and release, next the waves increased in intensity and migrated up the centre of my body and down to my toes. Finally, the built-up tension (stored energy) released and my entire body contracted. What followed was bliss and after shocks.
This set a high bar for every orgasm after that. Not that I didn’t enjoy my other orgasms (every orgasm is different), however, I wanted the wow and release of the full body orgasm. It is kind of funny, just not ha ha funny, that the more I pursued THE BIG O (full body orgasm), it is was harder to orgasm. Ugh. I had to learn not to chase my orgasm, however, let the orgasm come to me.
Fortunately, I am a curious person and didn’t give up. I read books, “Come as you are”, “Better Than Expected” all helpful, however discovering BodySex really helped me to develop the skills to more consistently bring my self to orgasm (including full body). It didn’t happen over night (it took knowledge of my clitoral system, practice touching myself in the right way long enough and staying curious and experimenting). And a willingness to use sex toys. I still laugh when I remember my first vibrator experiences. Putting the vibrator on too high and/or pushing it into my clitoris resulting in an ouch and/or my vulva being numbed out.
Then it came time to lead my own BodySex Circle. Could I orgasm while leading a group of women in the Rock N Roll method? Yikes! So, once we were all well on our way (vaginal penetration with Betty’s barbell, vibrator, pelvic floor squeeze and release with a slight pelvic rock), I attend to my mind (which can be a real orgasm killer as it goes through it’s to do list & fears) and started to describe to the group what I was feeling in my body. I noticed the tingling in my inner labia, then next my clitoris, then the tingling gradually travelled up center of my torso and my nipples are becoming erect. Then my mind starts to worry, “oh you are going to come too soon” “the goal is to build the arousal and become fully erect” So I start to edge and I feel my genitals engorging more. During this I remind myself and everyone else to breathe and make sounds. Well, that’s it for me around 20 mins I have a beautiful orgasm. So, the answer to the question is Yes, yes, I can. Then I described to the group how I was playing with the after shock and invited them to experiment as well by; moving the vibrator to the side of the clitoris, increasing or decreasing pressure and duration of pressure & strokes. I love playing with the flow of energy after my orgasm. Creating bursts of intense enjoyable sensations.
A Small O, A Big 0, A Complete Body 0, and the Sweet After Shocks, I love it all. Making Pleasure A Priority
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