A Women’s Sex Positive Circle
It has taken me many years to understand the power of the circle. I have experienced women’s prayer circles, planet medicine circles and now BodySex circles. I have found them all to be sacred spaces where I feel invited to abide (rest/dwell) in the circle’s spirit of reciprocity, equanimity and safety. Here there is opportunity to connect and share in our human commonality of vulnerability. Knowing that I am not alone, I am supported and my presence is an offering of support to the others. Together in these precious moments of circle there is exponential
opportunity for healing and personal growth as all of our beings come together at Cleveland’s BodySex circle for the soul purpose of exploring self pleasure.
I remember arriving in Cleveland with my BodySex buddy, Lakota (Certified BodySex Coach)and how uplifted I felt when we walked into the renovated 6,6000 square ft old tin can factory. It
just exudes pleasure with its beautiful lighting, rich wood floors and exposed brick walls.
That evening before all the participants arrived, I and the other assistants and facilitators armed ourselves with our magic wands, dildos, and lube for our own group masturbation session. I was so exhausted from the long drive that I wondered if I could orgasm. I reminded myself it is about
pleasure, not chasing the orgasm. (My part pipes up, “are you kidding me? I am here for the orgasm!”). I smile as I acknowledge the conflicting goals. Then taking a deep breath, I exhale leaning into the safety of feeling cocooned by the women’s circle. Everyone is here for the same purpose to experience personal pleasure and support each other. As I enjoy my orgasmic after shocks, bliss floods me, and leaves me with a sense of the sacred. My tear ducts are overflowing with joy and I transcend all that is dark in the world and rest in this cradle of bliss.
The Saturday morning when all the women would arrive, I choose my robe with care. The critical part said “what are you trying to prove?” I reminded that part that I have always chosen my clothing with care, loving merino wool, down jackets and classic cuts. So turning to the task at hand, I ask what does a sexually positive woman wear? (all circles are naked accept during teaching session and brunch). Why of course, my orange, sleeveless, front zipped, midthigh dress. Wearing my orange dress, feeling confident and sexy, I welcomed each participant as they arrived. Reflecting on my first BodySex experience, I wondered if they too were feeling a bit of
nerves, body shame, and excitement. As more and more women arrive, pride is exploding in my chest. So proud, women choosing pleasure, women supporting women, just as it should be.
I hold a prayer in my heart, that all of us will receive what we need (pleasure/ independent orgasm, connection with self and others and a knowing that my orgasm will carry me through) and leave behind what no longer serves us (shame, self hatred ……). I know from experience, one
of the many beautiful things about BodySex is that through self pleasure the body can release the shame and trauma stored within her cells. Much of my body shame dissolved after my first BodySex circle to the point that now I have the honor to sit in the circle as an assistant.
I tried to absorb as many pearls of wisdom from the facilitators, other assistants and participants. However, it is challenging as I am drawn into the sounds of pleasures arising from the circle. We are all in this together, all the women are here for the same purpose: to pleasure ourselves and
support each other. What a beautiful and erotic sight of a circle of women masturbating side by side enjoying themselves. This experience once again reinforces my believe in the power and sacredness of the circle.
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